do you tell people how much you lost?

[lia]

I have been losing a lot of weight over the last while after being obese for a number of years. I have had mixed reactions from people when I tell them that I've lost a lot of weight. I'm proud of my weight loss but I'm starting to realize that it produces a whole new level of judgment. Just like I was judged when I'm fat, people seem to think of me now as "just getting my life back together" now that I'm losing weight. It's as though because I was heavy, my life was out of control and I didn't know what I was doing. Should I stop telling people I've lost weight? Is that not an area for bragging rights?

[Nelly]

Forget what some judgmental people think! Don’t let them hold you back. Be proud of how much weight you’ve lost. You’re doing something great for your health and the way that you look and there’s no reason that negative jerks should have any control over you and your ability to enjoy what you’ve accomplished.

There are a lot of narrow minded people in this world but they don’t have to have any say over what you do or the way you feel. May I be the first to say to you (at least on this forum): great job!

[Beth]

That's very good advice, Nelly. I can see what Lia means about the judgment of people, but all you really need to know is that you've done a great thing for yourself, you're still doing a great thing, you have accomplished a lot, you look better, and you're healthier.

People who have a problem with that can just jam it. The odds are that they'll have to deal with their own embarrassing health issues - weight or something else - at some point in their lives. It's a good thing you're getting yours over with.

Be proud of what you've done, Lia! You've accomplished what millions of people haven't.